BDSM Tips: 12 Fantastic Ways to 'Punish' Your Submissive

BDSM Tips: 12 Fantastic Ways to 'Punish' Your Submissive

You probably don't think of sex as a punishment when you hear the term. BDSM, on the other hand, sees punishment as an essential part of sex. To top it off, it was a nice one!

There is no one-size-fits-all approach to enforcing discipline in a relationship. Your dom could spank you because you are a "brat," defined as someone who delights in obeying their master's orders.

PLEASE NOTICE: You and your partner must fully understand your boundaries and limitations before engaging in any BDSM punishments. It's still necessary for all persons involved to enthusiastically agree to the action, regardless of the nasty connotation of punishing someone.

Consensual BDSM punishments include these 12 tips:

  1. Denial of an orgasm

In this case, you get a person to the edge of orgasm, only to quit touching them moments before orgasm takes hold: that beautiful torture, my God.

  1. Spanking
Show them what happens when they disobey the rules by putting them on your knee. Aim target the fleshy portions of the body like the hips and upper thighs while you're doing this.

You might also choose not to spank them. Sometimes submissives "act out" to obtain the punishment they like. "Not giving them what they want is one way to punish them."

  1. Silence 

It is best to coerce your subordinate into agreeing to keep their lips quiet. Your subordinate may go one step further and not be allowed to speak in public without first obtaining permission.

  1. Depriving your sub of an event they've been eagerly waiting

Outside of a consensual dom/sub relationship, this would be brutal but sexy as hell. It forces them to sit on the ground with their hands in their lap and does not allow them to enter the event for a pre-determined time after they arrive.

  1. Take your sub like a puppy and walk them

To make your subordinate walk like a dog, attach a collar and leash. Use a kink dog mask like this one, and do the action in public if you want the added embarrassment element.

  1. Chain the sub up

Chain your sub to the bed and left to await your return. Leave your house and decide how long you'll keep them waiting. Return to them begging with you to let them go. Oh, the hilarity that can occur!

  1. Get some ice

While your partner is tied, grab some ice cubes and run them along their body. Use the ice to excite their bodies while also providing a relaxing sensation. With a blindfold on, this can be a lot of fun. The sub's other senses, including touch, are heightened.

  1. Cuckolding

When the dom has sex with someone else, and the sub is forced to watch, it is cuckolding. Cuckolding is a more sophisticated play, so do your homework before inviting someone new into your bedroom. The dominant partner might have the submit watch them get off with a toy for a milder variation.

  1. Require them to show their capacity to masturbate

Allow your sub to enjoy themselves only if you permit them. That authorization is removed if the regulations are breached. This implies you control whether or not they receive pleasure; their enjoyment is a gift you're giving them in exchange for good conduct.

  1. Remove something they like from them

Giving your sub a "time out" in the corner is a sort of "restrictive punishment" in this context. As a kind of punishment, take away something they appreciate. A mobile phone, a program they've been dying to watch, or an orgasm are possibilities.

  1. Write

An old-school Catholic school trick, this one. Punish your subordinates by making them write down what they've done a hundred times if they break the rules.

  1. Make them your furniture

Direct your sub to get down on all fours so you can rest your feet. Till you're ready to let them go, immerse yourself in a good book and keep them occupied until you are.