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Being a good Dominant is not about submissives owing you their submission or you demanding their submission, it’s about you being someone who is deserving of their submission, being someone who earns their respect, admiration and submission.
As a Dominant you’re the one enforcing the rules, and being a Dominant is about doing what you choose to do. You shouldn’t pay attention to people who want to tell you that you can’t do something because it’s not “Domly” enough (I was once told I couldn’t wear my Batman t-shirt for that reason) but that doesn’t mean there are no rules for you to follow.
A lot of the lists of "must see" kink and BDSM films are really dusting off some rather “classic” cinema with films like “Belle De Jour” from 1967 or “The Night Porter” from 1974. Don’t get me wrong, I think that some of the classics like “Salo, or the 120 Days of Sodom” and “The Story of O”, both from 1975, still have a lot to offer viewers even today, but I’ve been doing BDSM for a very long time and those films are even older than I am. Perhaps it’s time for a list of essential kink and BDSM films from this millennium?